How to sleep well..together!

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It is interesting to note how sleep dynamics change as you shift in with your other half post marriage and the adjusting extends even to sleep habits. There is scientific study that shows the more time partners spend together, the more they come to resemble each other in basic biological systems also. A phenomenon known as coregulation, which means the closer you are to your partner, the more your daily rhythms should come to resemble each other’s. You could be breathing the same way and even tossing and turning in bed around the same time.

However it could take time and in some cases the partners need to compromise a little until reach that state of equilibrium. Also, even if there is merit to coregulation, we are living in challenging times that make it harder for a couple to sleep soundly, hence the need to step up efforts.

According to Dr Sanjay Chugh, senior psychiatrist, “With the increasing demands and pressures of life, most people are firstly not getting sufficient sleep and suffering from chronic sleepiness. This leads to physical health issues as well as psychological problems such as mood swings, irritability, poor concentration, persistent feeling of tiredness and reduced energy level. And the first person the frustration comes out on, is the partner. Apart from efficiency at work deteriorating, it is seen to take a major toll on one’s relationship”.

It is known to create physical and emotional distance. “When one partner feels sleep deprived, he / she may not feel enthusiastic about the idea of indulging in any kind of intimacy as that may mean further sacrifice of sleep time. This could become a source of concern for the other person,” says Dr Chugh.

How to adjust better to each other’s sleep habits:

1) Instead of arguing over which one of the two should adjust to the other, take responsibility and suggest that both of you find a mid way path. Maybe the morning person can extend sleep hour by half hour more or the late nighter can go to bed half hour earlier. After all if you care enough for your partner these small adjustments should not seem like a big deal.

2) Certain sleep habits like frequent tossing and turning in bed, staying up late in bed and watching TV or reading a book with the light on, leads to fights between couples which affect the quality of the relation. Other issues like heavy snoring may force partners to sleep in separate beds, in separate rooms a solution which could give birth to other problems like reduced feeling of togetherness. It is very important to stay emotionally close and with the many advanced solutions available these days, ensure you find a way to still sleep together without getting disturbed. Never stop sharing space.

3) If you have to wake up early for any reason, let your partner know your schedule for next morning. Meanwhile go about getting ready noiselessly as far as possible, showing sensitivity to your partner’s needs.

Mattress matters:

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